An Important Bond:
Your Child and Your Caregiver
Have you ever seen a child cling to a caregiver when his parents arrive to
pick him up at a child care center? How about a child who greets her parents
happily then returns to her activity, in no rush to go home? While such close
attachments to caregivers and child care settings may make some parents
initially uneasy, these bonds are an important part of children's development
and learning. Working together, parents and caregivers can ensure that children
see their educational settings as safe places where adults other than their
parents support and care for them.
Caregivers with a strong knowledge of child development recognize how
important it is for children to have a sense of belonging, being loved, and
trust in their environments. Warm and caring relationships with adults provide
children with the basis for all types of learning. For instance, studies show
the presence of attentive caregivers encourages children to explore their
worlds. Responsive adults help children extend their learning and reach out to
other children and adults.
Specific training in early childhood education is critical because even the
most supportive caregivers may not fully understand children's needs at
different stages of their development. Also, working with groups of young
children is very different from relating to one's own child or neighbor's child.
Caregivers who attend workshops, courses, and staff development programs are
better able to create strong bonds with children. In addition, these caregivers
are more sensitive and responsive to all children in their care.
Because very young children have limited ability to communicate their wants
and needs, it takes a skilled adult who knows the child well to recognize
different signals and respond appropriately. Caregivers should be sensitive to
each child's learning needs, a unique combination of individual, developmental,
and cultural characteristics. Such attention helps children develop
self-confidence and self-worth.
Good caregivers know that children's learning occurs in informal activities
as much as in formal instruction. Children's language development, for example,
begins with their earliest human interactions. Attentive caregivers help children
learn the words to communicate their needs effectively. They see everyday caring
routines as opportunities for expanding children's language skills.
Parents can help strengthen the bond between children and caregivers by
helping to communicate an attitude of trust. Mention the caregiver's name in
conversations at home, and show interest in your child's interactions with
her/him. Say goodbye confidently to children to make their transition more
comfortable.
Parents will find the best caregivers by recognizing signs of early
childhood expertise. As communications between parents and caregivers develop,
the bonds between children and caregivers will grow. A caregiver who understands
the educational needs of each individual child can help parents make early years
the best learning years possible.
What helps strengthen the ties...
- Small groups of children. For babies, NAEYC recommends no
more than 6 to 8; for toddlers, 6 to 10; for pre-schoolers, 16 to 20 - and
always with at least 2 adults.
- A primary caregiver assigned to infants and toddlers to promote
consistency and responsiveness.
- Scheduling that keeps groups of children with the same caregivers
for extended periods of time, rather than changing with the traditional school
year, or even more frequently.
- Low staff turnover to reduce any anxiety caused by changing
faces and styles of handling. Ask programs about rate of turnover and steps
taken to recruit and retain qualified staff.
- Active parent participation. Close communication with caregivers
may ease parents' initial concerns and help children benefit most from their
experience.
Resources:
Greenburg, P. 1991. Character Development: Encouraging self-esteem &
self-discipline in infants, toddlers, & two-year olds. NAEYC #175/ $8.
Koralek, D.G., L.J. Colker, & D.T. Dodge. 1993. The what, why and
how of high-quality early childhood education. NAEYC #336/ $7.
NAEYC. 1990. How to choose a good early childhood program. #525/ 10
for $100; 50¢ each.
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